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22 March 2010 @ 01:08 am
Three times a bridesmaid...  
The other major adventure of the weekend was going with corvusjoyous  to shop for her wedding dress. Unlike many of my recent dress-shopping experiences, this bride was pretty convinced she wanted a white dress right from the start, so we just grabbed her momma and hit David's Bridal. 

Despite the fact that we had a poster the bride put together with pictures of acceptable and undesirable dress characteristics, we ran through about a half dozen options of varying acceptability. I ended up needing to be a little firm with the saleschick in order to get dresses that conformed more closely to the bride's desired characteristics, but I'm OK with being the pissy bad bridesmaid in order to get results. Happily, but the end of the day, we had found a dress that hit most of corvusjoyous' wants without hitting too many of the do not wants, was within her budget, and was able to be ordered in the correct wedding colors. WIN! She may be doing some additional embellishment when it comes in and we'll be adding the bustle-hooks in between the wedding and the reception, but it's a gorgeous gown as-is and I'm sure she'll be stunning. :)

Now I just need to coordinate with the other bridesmaids and find dresses of the right color and of an acceptable style. At least there are bridesmaid dresses these days that avoid the taffeta-with-ruffles-and-a-giant-butt-bow look! :P I'm sooooo glad I was never a bridesmaid in the 80's! 
 
 
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Albredaalbreda on March 22nd, 2010 11:50 am (UTC)
Is your friend an anti-control freak, or just insanely unable/unwilling to pick out her own dress?

Either way, having you and her mother pick things out for her sounds like a lovely exchange!
eithni: inferno eyeeithni on March 22nd, 2010 12:20 pm (UTC)
No, that's just the way these shops "work." The consultant (on commission) brings suggested dresses to the dressing room, supposedly based on your body type, color preferences, etc., bit too often based on what they think is the most expensive gown they can sell you. You are actively discouraged from shopping the racks. D was being clear about what she wanted, the saleschick was just not really good about listening to her suggestions. I'm more... direct. :p
Albredaalbreda on March 22nd, 2010 12:42 pm (UTC)
Ah - from your post, it sounded like she wasn't even there! Silly shops. My mother and I found my wedding dress (for this time around; my first one I designed, and someone else sewed) at a left-overs sale when I wasn't even dating anyone seriously! Fortunately, it still fit five years later! :)
eithni: greeneithni on March 22nd, 2010 12:52 pm (UTC)
Oh, no, she was there, I just try to be good about not using people's real names in posts and didn't want to keep using her user name, so I used "the bride" but re-reading it, I see how that makes it sound impersonal, like she was a disembodied spirit hanging over us. :p
Albredaalbreda on March 22nd, 2010 12:55 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I like Scadian names for just that reason. I only call my kids by their initials. Can't be too careful!
corvusjoyouscorvusjoyous on March 22nd, 2010 07:09 pm (UTC)
I don't mind if you use my name. Either of them. Not too sensitive about privacy stuff.
eithni: inferno eyeeithni on March 22nd, 2010 07:23 pm (UTC)
Thanks. It's just so hard to keep track of who is wigged out about it and who is not, so I pretty strictly stick to usernames or SCA names.
ego_id_non_feciego_id_non_feci on March 22nd, 2010 08:47 pm (UTC)
Jeez- That's why we do it? I could NOT for the life of me figure out why we're not using names!! I even had a post, but no one said anything useful like that! Thanks! :D
marwen42marwen42 on March 22nd, 2010 01:02 pm (UTC)
At our wedding rehearsal, we gave everyone (including the guys) bright orange tulle sashes so we could all share the bow on the butt experience. :-)

I had done a similar thing -- gone through magazines, picked out dress features I was interested in. All of them looked like crap on me. All of the dresses that I was sure would look horrible looked amazing. It was very strange. In the end, Cassandy combined the best features from two of the dresses to make me a perfect gown!
EllieSamelliesam on March 22nd, 2010 02:41 pm (UTC)
That was an interesting shopping experience. So glad we went in and tried dresses on you. And you looked so fab!
cassbunnycassbunny on March 22nd, 2010 06:18 pm (UTC)
I still have the sketches for the butt bows and the butt bindee(sp)!
Just in case you wish to recommend my designs to some other wonderful bride. :-)
Petranellapetranella on March 22nd, 2010 04:35 pm (UTC)
I was a made of honor in 1991. it was a lovely robin's egg blue eyelet number w/ tiers of ruffles down the back and a butt bow. I would have rather had (nasty polyester) taffeta. Eyelet breaks the gathering stitches everyfrickintime you hit an eye. I'm still bitter 20 years later.
zandoriazandoria on March 23rd, 2010 04:11 am (UTC)
I was a bridesmaid in the late 80's, for my sister (middle sister, I'm the oldest). We wore pastel teal (yes, pastel). We didn't have a butt bow, but we did have to have sashes with a side bow. Almost as bad.

I tried to be kind and put my bridesmaids (my sisters) into really cute, ballarina style dresses. They didn't like them as much as I did, and forced some changes on to me, but I managed to keep the main design (they made me change the color slightly). I wish I could have had some input in what they made me wear when they got married, might have ended up with something that could be worn more than once.