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02 October 2010 @ 01:57 am
No good deed...  
*sigh* when the phone rings at 1:30AM, I *know* who it is and I *know* he's going to be drunk, but that apparently doesn't stop me from answering and trying to be supportive without being enabling. :/

Back to sleep, I hope...
Current Mood: sleepysleepy
whymcwhymc on October 2nd, 2010 07:12 am (UTC)
If you like, I could randomly call you sometimes around 2, just to inject a bit of variety.

eithni: darkladyeithni on October 4th, 2010 03:31 am (UTC)
Heh. Certainly would inject more coherence.
Uncle Mikeybelmikey on October 4th, 2010 06:58 pm (UTC)
You beat me to it :-)
Rampant Horsemasexualkrkhst on October 2nd, 2010 11:54 am (UTC)
I too
Have lived through that experience, so I empathize. I have no words that make it any easier - I can only assure you that you are a wonderful compassionate individual. Hope you got back to sleep...
eithni: lightningeithni on October 4th, 2010 03:32 am (UTC)
Re: I too
Yeah, I was wiped out, so it didn't keep me up long...
Ursulaursulagoddess on October 2nd, 2010 05:29 pm (UTC)
If its your cell phone, then I can suggest that you turn it off over night so you can sleep without those calls. If its your land line, get an answering machine or voicemail and just turn the ringer off on the phone in your room.

My counselor gave me some advice for dealing with people who drink (or who are in recovery). "I didn't cause it, I can't control it and I can't cure it."

I hope those words will help you as much as they have helped me!

eithni: lightningeithni on October 4th, 2010 03:30 am (UTC)
It was the land line and I generally don't answer it, but like I said, I pretty much knew what I was getting myself into - but he has other stressors right now that I felt I really had to try to be supportive even if it was inconvenient.
(Anonymous) on October 5th, 2010 10:46 pm (UTC)
I didn't realize it was quite this challenging. Thank you for making a sincere effort, and I'm sorry you're still experiencing someone else's fallout. Sigh. -S
eithni: inferno eyeeithni on October 11th, 2010 04:48 am (UTC)
So completely not your fault, don't worry about it...