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11 December 2010 @ 02:40 am
It's all relative...  
So, my hair was recently cut and I still have not really adjusted. (I have a horror of having people mess with my hair - trauma from when my grandma and mom would braid my hair face lift-tight.leleth_faery is aware of this pathology, so when braiding my hair a few weeks ago, she offered to trim it for me to reduce tangling/pulling. This was a Good Thing, it's just that I'm usually too nervous to lop off more than an inch at a go and she took a more effective approach. Very necessary, just requiring adjustment.) I lost about 3 inches or so, I think, so not a lot in relative terms, but enough that I've been still doing that pulling-the-brush-further-than-necessary thing.

At SCA events, my hair length is long, but not enough to elicit comment and no one really noticed the chopping except alinore the also-long-haired. Tonight, however, several members of my family were exclaiming how very long it is and none of them have hair longer than shoulder length... 

I'm not exactly sure where my thought process is going on this, but it's sort of an interesting series of comparisons - the little amount I usually trim my hair, the bigger amount that should have been trimmed, how small changes are invisible when they are observed by the general public, but noticeable to "specialists" and how context defines what is exceptional or outwith the expected parameters. But I'm tired. Maybe more later.
Current Mood: tiredtired
Splott: Poking Badgers with Spoonssplott on December 11th, 2010 02:26 pm (UTC)
Healthy. Focus on that word...your hair is more HEALTHY. :)

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eithni: ?!?!?!?eithni on December 12th, 2010 08:07 am (UTC)
Unquestionably. It's just odd.
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grnjenny / Jennifer Carlsongrnjenny on December 13th, 2010 05:34 pm (UTC)
One of my sneaky things I did to Nanny and Libbet was to take them with me to the stylist for my wedding - my treat! You get spiffed up too! (oh, didn't I mention the minor trim, you know, just for frayed ends?) heehehehehe
alinorealinore on December 11th, 2010 02:47 pm (UTC)
Your hair is still very long and pretty. I was just surprised at how short it looked. :P Which is funny because it's still actually quite long.
eithni: geekeithni on December 12th, 2010 08:10 am (UTC)
Thanks... Just having you be the only person to notice/comment got me thinking about what role perspective has on someone's view of another's appearance. For instance, another "norm" among my friends is the lack of make-up-wearing. It's also the norm amongst my hippy co-workers. But when I go to a pharmacy convention, I'm completely the freak and my sister is appalled that I don't want to buy Mary Kay products from her. :P
Kareinakareina on December 11th, 2010 03:52 pm (UTC)
Every time I get the ends trimmed off I feel funny till my arm quits trying to brush the parts that aren't there. Alas, the one time I let someone take six inches off the bottom because it was really scraggly it has never recovered--it gets about half way to that length again, and then looks so scraggly I wind up trimming it again. Which is a pity, I liked having hair that reached my hips...
eithni: greeneithni on December 12th, 2010 08:12 am (UTC)
This was completely necessary. I think part of it is that I am considering taking a little more - it still has splitty bits. :/ It's just too traumatic to make it even shorter ATM, though.
Kareinakareina on December 12th, 2010 12:57 pm (UTC)
I so understand that trauma. I tend to err on the side of "keep as much length as possible, because it takes so darn long to grow back".
Amanda Marksdottir: Maskragnvaeig on December 11th, 2010 05:57 pm (UTC)
Even when I chop a good 25 cm or so off my hair, nobody notices, so I regularly get rid of about 5 cm or so at a time because I have bad dry ends (probably because I need to use an afro pick rather than a brush due to frizz and can't be arsed to spend terribly much maintenance time on my hair). Sympathies.
eithnieithni on December 12th, 2010 08:13 am (UTC)
"can't be arsed to spend terribly much maintenance time on my hair"

Hee. This is EXACTLY the problem. I like my long hair, but in part because it gives me a no-brainer, relatively low-maintenance styling option. My braid down the back is not terribly imaginative, but reliable.
teffanteffan on December 11th, 2010 08:23 pm (UTC)
I figured out why I don't notice when people with long hair get a significant amount chopped off (but it's still long) - I focus more on how the hair looks at their face, so unless that "look" changes, I don't notice a haircut. When you pointed it out to me that you'd gotten a haircut, I could tell it was a bit shorter than I remembered, but your appearance hadn't changed so I didn't notice anything was out of place.
arebekah: Elephant 2arebekah on December 12th, 2010 01:14 am (UTC)
This. It's the same with boys and facial hair - I don't notice trims, but I do notice new growth in new places or complete removal (after a while). Don't ever ask me what color eyes people have, I won't be able to tell you. And height is all relative to me (I'm the center of my world after all), so short to me requires a person to have actually stood next to me while I was standing, and I had to notice it...otherwise, I don't know, and in this case, personality makes a difference. Damej is not actually petite in my world.
eithni: geekeithni on December 12th, 2010 08:13 am (UTC)
huh. Interesting...
reneekytokorpireneekytokorpi on December 12th, 2010 05:14 am (UTC)
Combing after trimming is really disconcerting. At my longest, I had three and a half feet of hair loose or two and a half braided. I cut it to my shoulders to donate it for a friend in the hospital, and it was a huge shock. :C

Now, I struggle to grow it out. I know that once it is long enough to braid, I'm fine, but it's just all those intermediate hair everywhere frustrating stages! Can't braid it, gets snarls that it wouldn't if it were braided. Drives me crazy!

I really wish I had never cut it. I didn't want to at the time, but felt I should, and it makes me unhappy that it's so short.
tcsumnertcsumner on December 12th, 2010 06:08 am (UTC)
I had a interesting experience in this area. Right before Thanksgiving I got the shortest cut my hair has ever had - parts of my hair haven't been this sort since I was a baby...and 3, count them, three people noticed...
I do agree with Teffan - it is easier to notice a change of hair as it frames the face. Oh it might be one of those things that you know something changed, but not sure just what...
eithni: geekeithni on December 12th, 2010 08:16 am (UTC)
huh. You may be right. I think some of it has to do with volume too - I'm more likely to notice a perm or a straightening treatment than a moderate cut.