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26 December 2011 @ 11:04 pm
Resolutions 2012  
A first draft:

Take more time to prioritize *my* projects
I have a huge to-do list and I am constantly letting people add things to my queue. The occasional small project is not a huge deal, but I need to beware of projects I think will take more than 5 hours and more firmly apply that most foreign of words - "no."

I have been a slacker with my reading in recent years, any my "to read" pile (er, bookshelf *blush*) shows it. I've had some time at home the last few weekends and there have been a few days spent gloriously in bed or on the couch with a steadily growing pile of read books beside me. Do more of that.

Get into better shape
Oh, yeah, the nice generic girly resolution. But last year I did join a gym and was good about going for about half of the year. I just need to get back in the saddle and stick with it. I've started again in November and December and just need to keep up the momentum. The light weight lifting and hot tub therapy really does seem to help my joints, so I even have incentive to do it, I just need to DO it.

Be more self-reliant
In the last year, I have been disappointed in some peoples' capacity to do what they promised to do, to be supportive, and/or to just act like they are actually my friends. I think I sometimes have too much faith that people will be as effective and steadfast as I endeavor to be and then am consequently disappointed. I need to set more clear expectations when collaborating, then follow up. I need to be more clear in my expectations and needs, and then clarify as needed. And I need to expect that I can only rely on that which I can ensure, which is precious little outside of what I can personally control.

Do not enable bad behavior/Do encourage self reliance in others
I try to be helpful and supportive to my friends, but I am afraid that in some cases that assistance has bled over into enabling maladaptive behaviors. I thought I could lead by example and things would work out, but I'm just burnt out on that. I need not to contribute to the problem and to more directly work to productively modify behaviors and skill sets. If possible, actually capture some of the targets and schedule some sessions of Eithni and Liz's Real Life Boot Camp and Finishing School for Aspiring Ladies (name and curricula tentative).

I have done a fair bit of travel across the US in recent years, but not so much abroad. That needs to change. It is appalling that the only "foreign" places I have been to in living memory are Canadia and Jamaica (and that mainly on an odious all-inclusive resort vacation). Italy, Iceland, India, and Ireland are all on the priority list (no particular order) and, of course, Scotland always calls. I'll do NYC and DC this January, but I need new stamps in my passport... and to show off my kitchen-green leather passport holder...

Home cleaning/repair
There are a lot of things around here that just need a little attention to make a world of difference, but I have been suffering from a lack of motivation. Having fixed (*knocks on wood*) the basement leaking in the furnace room, the urgent needs are met, but there is a lot that has been ignored and de-prioritized for one reason or another. I need to make a priority list and then start aggressively checking it off.
Current Mood: contemplativecontemplative
arebekah: Elephant 2arebekah on December 29th, 2011 05:06 am (UTC)
I wish you luck with most of these. I'm concerned about the "be more self reliant;" however, I think the next item on your list is related and will help with that one.

You have always been one of the most capable, generous and goal oriented persons that I know. Zen hugs, since real hugs would be touching, and good thoughts for the New Year.
eithni: ?!?!?!?eithni on December 29th, 2011 08:15 am (UTC)
Thanks, for the comments and for everything... I miss you. We should do dinner again soon.
arebekah: Elephant 2arebekah on December 30th, 2011 08:23 pm (UTC)
We should!