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03 March 2012 @ 12:49 am
Possible Possibilities and Impossible Plans  
Today my sister called to let me know that my brother-in-law got into the pharmacy school in Madison and that she, her husband, and the niblings are moving to Madison this summer. I'm wildly conflicted about this. 

On one hand, it means that I'm less likely to act on my flight impulse to quit my job, light everything on fire and run away to Iceland when there are niblings nearby to corrupt and torture.

On the other hand, if they decided they wanted to buy my house, then I'd be free to wander off to whatever corner of the world I wanted to go to.

And, again, leaving town is not really the core of the change that I want, but the other issues are more difficult to address... I have ideas about how to go about solving the work issue, but I'm deeply conflicted about leaving a job where I believe in the mission just because it's making me miserable and I suspect it is financially unstable. I have wild fantasies about resolving the personal life issues, but those are more from the land of fiction than reality... but with just enough plausibility to make my subconscious write compelling scripts in my sleep, but not compelling enough to make me say the crazy things aloud...


In any event, they don't yet know the details, they just made the decision to accept the offer to the school today. Possibilities are still unfolding.
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carrot_khan on March 3rd, 2012 04:06 pm (UTC)
I'd be sad to loose you to Iceland, but then I'd have someone to send me pictures of all the stuff overseas that I can't get a closer look at. ;)
Kareinakareina on March 3rd, 2012 08:55 pm (UTC)
Ooo, Iceland! I have been wanting to visit there--a friend living there would up the odds of it happening. I keep seeing ads for their SCA events on the Drachenwald list and deciding I can't afford the air fare...
DameJ: Moaidamej on March 4th, 2012 10:08 pm (UTC)
Don't lump unrelated decisions together. If they are interested in (and able) to buy your house, by all means sell it to them and move into a nice rental property. There are plenty to choose from. The glut of unsold condos means you can sometimes negotiate a trial rental, so you don't have to lock yourself into another mortage if you want to try condo living. There are also houses and duplexes for rent.

Just because you would no longer be tied to a mortgage does not mean you have to quit your job and leave town. Evaluate those decisions separately, but don't pass up the opportunity to broaden your options if the house sale is a real possibility.
eithni: greeneithni on March 6th, 2012 12:25 am (UTC)
The issues aren't entirely unrelated... If I was no longer tied to a mortgage, I wouldn't need to worry so much about money and therefore the stress and instability of my job would be less of an ulcer-inducing concern. I probably would eventually come back to Madison, but if I could sell my house and my job implodes like I think it will, there's a very good chance I'd want to sell/store most of my crap and take an extended tour of Europe before figuring out a long-term plan.
Elizabethliz_bet on March 6th, 2012 03:27 pm (UTC)
Honestly, there are generally only a few chances in a lifetime that allow you to just pick up and travel for months at a time. Usually it's when we are too young and poor to take advantage of it, or retired and wishing you could have done it when you were younger. You sound like you're in a big time of transition lately and some wandering might be good.

If you can have enough set aside for a financial cushion, and have health care covered, I say grab the opportunity with both hands and don't look back. Being on your own allows for rare flexibility in your life that just isn't there when you add commitments to a partner or family. Those commitments aren't bad things, but just aren't so flexible.

It's a scary thought to just pack things up and head off on adventure, but you have a strong group of friends who will remain to be, no matter where you end up. Taking some time for yourself to enjoy, think, and learn without the pressures and responsibilities that usually surround you is something you should definitely take advantage of if you have the means!

.. and in other news, I hope you make it to Gulf Wars so I can say hi! :) Our house is just an hour south of site (1/2 hour north of NOLA) and since I don't have a job yet, I'm hoping to day trip a day or two next week :)
eithni: jumpingeithni on March 7th, 2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
I will indeed be at Gulf Wars! I'm camping with Northshield, so hopefully I will see you there!
eithni: darkladyeithni on March 28th, 2012 01:20 am (UTC)
Yeah, sadly it's looking like that won't actually work - My sister and BiL want to be closer to campus and can't afford a house this size. Poo. Not unexpected, but it was a nice little daydream...

It was so nice to see you and the spud at GW!